How Journaling Can Help You Cope With Life Changes
5 scenarios with a magazine can help
Regardless of whether you have never written before or you are a lifelong writer for a reflective writer, put your thoughts on paper with strategic ways, can help you cope with some difficult changes and milestones of life.
Here, experts outlined five general changes in general terms, when journalization is especially useful, and offer exercises on how to start.
1. This can help strengthen marriage, whether you are fighting or not
Journal can help new couples navigate partnerships or long -standing steam resolves the conflict.
You can keep a solo marriage magazine. Like other types of magazines, a solo marriage magazine is a private space only for your eyes, but it can offer a common view of your marriage.
“Often we tend to lose sight of the maximums and falls of our interaction with our spouse in favor of what we feel at present, but this may complicate the general state of our marriage and feelings for him,” says Sarah Bakhed, LCSW, a therapist with a virtual Health platform based in Riverside, California. “The presence of a solo magazine helps to serve a kind of record that we can return to, and information in these magazines can help determine any repeated templates in the styles of relations and communications that can use improvement.”
Another option is a couple’s marriage magazine, where you and your spouse share your thoughts, feelings and concern with each other. According to Bakheda, this type of magazine can be a useful, positive tool for steam that needs a push to show gratitude to each other.
She recommends writing in a common magazine at least once a week, and you can use it to voice the little things that your partner did, it meant a lot for you, but perhaps left without a rear, and then give them the opportunity to read his. “Often we think that our spouse knows that we are grateful or satisfied with them, but when it is not voiced directly, your spouse may not be easy not to understand that you feel like that, especially when people are easily stuck in their own heads,” – She says. “This is your chance to make your gratitude known.”
Marriage magazine For a solo marriage magazine, Bakhead recommends asking yourself: what aspects of relations correspond to your ideal vision of what relations should be? Have you reported your details in details that are not?
And for a common magazine, think: what did your partner do this week that made you smile? “Imagine how positively you will feel, reading your partner’s works on how a new nickname that you gave them made them smile all day or how to choose your favorite food when they told you a field
2. This can help you process grief from the loss of a loved one
Regardless of how grief appears, journaling is a useful way to release emotions so that you can start their processing. “Journalism or writing of letters can be catharsical, especially in moments when you feel overcame with emotions,” says Bakhead.
Instead of trying to keep a magazine on regular graphics, Bakhead recommends hit while the iron is hot. “Woe often hits strongly and suddenly, like a wave,” says Bakhead.
Use the notebook application on your smartphone or a small laptop to write down how you feel when the emotion becomes overwhelming, or you want to share something with the person you have lost. “Let the words wash you and console you,” says Bakhead. “Regardless of whether you had months, years or decades to get acquainted with your loved one, you know what they will tell you or what they will think. This is a powerful presence in your life. ”
Grind the magazine If you need help at the beginning of work with the magazine grief, try to write directly to your loved one, as if they are right next to you, offers Bakhead.
What would you like to tell them right now? What positive memories have you been thinking about recently? What random things have happened recently, what made you think about them? Or tell them why you are angry that they left you, or why do you know that everything will be in order, even if this is not always the case.
3. It can help you through a divorce pain or break
“Journing is a healthy way to unravel these feelings and find out where they come from,” says Kara Nassur, a licensed professional consultant practicing in shaded counseling in Austin, Texas. Thus, you will not behave impulsively and do not talk about something that you are sorry later.
The most important thing is to be honest when you journal. Recognize even ugly feelings that you will never tell anyone else, says Nassur. Your magazine is a private space where you can be angry, selfish, scared, miserable, or even happy or vengeful.
“Remember that just writing words will not hurt anyone,” says Nassur.
It can also help read what you write when you are in a calm state. “This can give you a more objective perspective and ideas about how to play these feelings constructively,” says Nassur. Here are two of her favorite tips to support your healing process.
Divorce or break If you wanted a break, what are the reasons why you remained in the relationship as long as you did it? What are the reasons you wanted to leave? If you started another relationship, how would you like them to differ?
If you did not want to leave, have you ever experienced such a loss earlier? Who and what helped you cope with this? What did you do to cope? Can you help you now, of which of people, resources or strategies since that time?
4. It can prepare you for the child
To become a parent is a time filled with such a large number of new experiments and worries that some may forget to slow down and reflect on their own feelings and needs.
“Many parents whom I know want to be able to attend their children, and this is really difficult to achieve if we are fighting in order to attend our own emotions,” says Jordan Olsen, LCSW, perinatal psychiatric therapist with AD ASTRA therapy In Miluoi.
Jouring gives a new and expecting that parents will express many emotions that they feel. Simply put, 10 minutes a day – or even a few days a week, if you cannot help daily practice – focus on your thoughts and formulate them on paper.
“I often give my customers clues for independent registration, which contributes to reflection on their emotional state and where these emotions appear in the body,” says Olsen. She recommends setting the timer on your phone for 10 minutes and respond to these tips below.
Pregnancy Journal What lessons did you learn about what it means to be a “good parent” from observing your parents? Are there any lessons that you want to save for your upbringing? Are there any lessons from which you want to release?
Here is another hint: choose the time when you felt that last week you were scared, worried, stunned, evil or sad. Think about this moment and think about the question: “Does this indicate an unsatisfied need?”
5. It can help you work with the crisis of health or diagnosis
Journing gives a structured time and the ability to process these feelings, says Julia Kogan, Psyd, a psychologist and an expert on stress in Chicago.
Some people may not have friends or family who can help them understand their feelings. Or they may not feel comfortable, share what is happening with their health. “Journaling allows you to get a neutral way to express yourself at any time,” says Dr. Kogan.
“Thus, journaling can be a useful strategy for managing general health and chronic health conditions,” Kogan says. Use her exercise below to start.
Health crisis or diagnosis Find a quiet and calm atmosphere. Install the timer for 15-30 minutes and write about what is upset. This may include your current state of health, any information that you received from your doctor, how you feel about information, as well as any concerns or fears. If you need an increase in mood, use the time in the journal to determine 5-10 things for which you are grateful, describe the goal to manage your health, or write a list of your mechanisms and tools, as well as people in your life who can support you.
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- When you feel stress or navigate the difficult changes in life, journaling can help you go through your emotions and determine the path forward.
- It was shown that journaling helps you process emotions that are accompanied by significant life changes, and can also benefit physical health.
- Experts say that journaling can help strengthen marriage ties, treat the loss of a loved one, work through parting, prepare for a child and cope with a health crisis.
With additional reporting Moira Lawler.